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5 little letters…

1 Nov

There is a word that we all may say, that we don’t hear often enough. Sorry – an expression, a regret.

What does it mean to say sorry? Why should you say sorry? When should you say sorry?

First and foremost, saying sorry shouldn’t come naturally, it shouldn’t fall off the end of your tongue like please and thank you. You cant fuck up and then say sorry. The world doesn’t work like that. America didn’t bomb iraq and then say, ‘oh, we’re sorry’. You must face the consequences of your actions.

People get hurt. People feel ashamed. People feel neglected. People feel all sorts of things when you make a mistake. Saying sorry doesn’t make it all ok. Life can’t just ‘roll on’. You can’t just ‘pick up’ where you left of.

Sorry is an easy word. You bang into someone in the supermarket, ‘Oh, I’m sorry love’.

When it comes to relationships, it is different.

Here are a few examples:

A friend told me: I found my husband ‘chatting’ with girls online but he said, ‘sorry’. – and that makes it ok? sorry, makes everything ok? No, it doesn’t.

Another friend found her husband had lost his job and was leaving the house everyday and going to a cafe to ‘pretend’ he was going to work. When she found out, he said, ‘sorry, but I didn’t want you to feel ashamed of me’. – this ‘sorry’, is ok. This ‘sorry’ came from the heart. The reason this man didn’t tell his wife was because of shame. In the above story of the ‘online flirt’, the husband didn’t tell the wife because ‘he thought it was enough, he thought his little online obsession would never ‘get out’.

Well, gentlemen, sometimes SORRY isn’t enough. why? Because there is so much more that sometimes need fixed.

You forget that men and women are built differently.

We aren’t meant to feel the same. Women are much more sensitive than men, why? who knows? perhaps, it comes down to the fact we are the child-bearers. We are the queens of the house.

There is TRUST, LOYALTY and RESPECT. Those need FIXED also during a time of betrayal.

A two hour long arguing session cannot end in, ‘I’m sorry’.

A discussion needs to take place. Two people must have the floor to talk. It must come from both sides and the problem must be addressed. The reasons behind the problem must be address and the conclusion as to how to get ‘over’ the problem must be attempted to be accomplished. Things don’t get fixed in five minutes. They aren’t supposed to. Sometimes they take months. Sometimes there isn’t always an answer. There has to be a mutual agreement. One person cannot make a ‘flat out’ yes or no answer.

Yes, to some extent there should be a decision maker BUT it’s hard to choose who. Some might say, it’s the male’s choice, some might say, no it’s the females. Religion and Culture should not even enter the equation.

What you both want from your marriage, your future and for your kids should be the equation.

Your family and her family shouldn’t enter the subject either.

Whether she respects your family or you respect hers doesn’t even matter.

Your family is YOUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY. That’s a husband, a wife and children. NO INLAWS OR OUTLAWS.

Marriage is more than a piece of paper. It’s a contract. Bound for life. In sickness and in health. For richer or for poorer. All marriages have ups and downs. Life has lots of crossroads…it’s your choice which road you choose to take.

 

I can be ANYTHING……Tv commercial

26 Oct

Loving this commercial.

Trying To Be Fahad …the moment you have ALL been waiting for!

26 Oct

It’s finally here! Yes, Fahad has FINALLY got himself a blog!!

Keep up with all his health, fitness and diet expertise here

THANK YOU, FAHAD 🙂

Realistic Goals

19 Oct

So, carrying on with my last post, how can you shed those stubborn lbs?

Well, first of all…I’m writing this post for myself too. I think the first step is realizing that I/you need to change.

I don’t want to call it a diet…why? Because, I don’t want to live my life on a ”diet”, that’s just silly. I want to have a healthier lifestyle.

The main thing is water. People sometimes confuse thirst with hunger. So you can end up eating extra calories when an ice-cold glass of water is really what you need. Aim to have between 10-15 glasses of water a day, that’s roughly 2.5litres. “If you don’t like plain water, try adding citrus or a splash of juice, or brew infused teas like mango or peach, which have lots of flavor but no calories,” says Cynthia Sass, RD, a spokeswoman for the American Dietetic Association.

Start by focusing on getting the recommended 5-9 servings of fruit and veg each day. It sounds like a lot but you can cram this all in all day.

Make your ”diet/lifestyle” change public. Tell people you want to change. It will improve your self-esteem and allow people to comment on your (hopefully) weightloss.

Give yourself one day off. That does NOT mean that you sit down on a Saturday afternoon with a bag of cookies and a big bottle of pop but treat yourself, have a slice of bread, have a cookie. One slice of bread and one cookie will NOT kill you and WILL NOT allow you to gain 5-10lbs.

Exercise: Aim to walk at around 6/7km p/h. 5 times a week. Gradually build this up to 7 days a week of one hour exercise. DO NOT over estimate what you can do at the beginning, remember your body has been in survival mode. You will only end up hurting yourself.

Have a red flag weight
Once you’ve lost the weight, you need to keep it off. This is where the red flag comes in. You need to pick a weight and vow to never get heavier than it again. It is normal for your body to fluctuate five to ten pounds. I recommend picking a weight that is ten pounds heavier than what you “normally” weigh and never weigh more than it again.

So those are my tips, it’s now time for ME and YOU to put them in action.

An example of a meal plan should be like this:

Breakfast:

Lukewarm glass of water with a dash of lime or lemon BEFORE food.

A handful (NOT A BOWL) of special K or Alpen/Muesli with either soya or skimmed milk.

Lunch:

A piece of brown/multigrain bread with flora NOT butter.

A cup of soup.

OR

Lean Meat with Salad

Dinner: Lean Meat with Salad or Salad alone with piece of fruit after.

This is my aim.

I will lose weight.

I will stop eating junk food.

I will exercise more.

AND I WILL DRINK 2.5litres of water a day.

I will be happy NAKED. LOL and ..when I reach that plateau and it won’t shift, I will resort to fat burning pills.

Not just our tomatoes…there goes the Zubaidi too….

11 Oct

So, we aren’t only paying 800fils per kilo for tomatoes…our fish prices just soared too. When will this stop?

We are turning into the UK…soon Kuwait will be introducing tax.Look at the above picture, for those that don’t know the conversions…that’s around 2.2kd per kilo……..good aul harrods eh? Charging that much for French tomatoes………………LOL. Ridiculous.

Zubaidi is now sitting at about 12kd per kilo.

For goodness sake, it’s just fish!!!

So, we’re all to stop eating meat and ‘fruit’ (since Tomato is actually a fruit not a veg) and eat what exactly?

It’s green beans from here on in.

Perhaps we should all just try the baby diet………..pureed broccoli and potatoes.

You can read more about these price hiked here over at the Kuwait Times and another article, Zubaidi or Gold.

Miss Simpson on her way!

29 Sep

Miss Jessica Simpson is on her way to Kuwait. She will most likely arrive sometime tomorrow morning/lunchtime for those wishing to catch a glimpse. She will be performing for the troops at the camps, north and south.
Wish just once we could have a concert for us. Taxpayers money in the states are paying for her to fly here, first-class…good their money is going somewhere useful.
Thank God we don’t pay tax, eh?