Tag Archives: Advice

just a thought

20 Oct

If anyone wants to chat, moan, bitch, have a gossip, you can contact me at the email on the top right hand side.
I know many of us have our problems and I just realised tonight, I’m SO lucky to have wonderful friends/family/colleagues that I can talk too but there are some people who don’t have a single soul to talk to. If you want an unbiased opinion or just someone to listen, don’t hesistate to contact me.
*hugs* to all 🙂

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Could be true…

30 Sep

I just read a comment on another blog.

‘Yes, if we could all stop trying to make our partner into the “ideal mate” and instead focus on what they bring to the relationship, we’d all be happier.’

This probably true and very much related to my ‘don’t wait forever’ post.

We probably dig ourselves into these holes. Trying to make our other half ‘perfect’, that ‘perfect father’, that ‘perfect husband’.

love.hate.love.hate.love.hate.love.hate

Listen to your heart, before you tell him goodbye.

Don’t leave it too long…

23 Sep

The reality is, most of us wait for that perfect someone. We dream in our teenage years of finding our soulmate. We wait for that ‘perfect’ one. We wait and we wait and we wait but the truth is, no-one is perfect, be it a man or a woman.

You will find faults with your husband and your wife. Everyone has something that will annoy the other person but you got to work through those faults and remember why it is you came to love each other in the first place. But what if you didn’t love each other in the first place? What if it was an arranged marriage?

This week, I had a recently married ‘arosa’ on the telephone, crying. It was an arranged marriage and she felt like he wasn’t paying attention to her, was shouting too much…’you can’t do this, you can’t do that’…the ‘I’ve just got married, you don’t cook like my mother syndrome’.

This is life. This is marriage. Of course EVERYONE has their problems. Within time, for many, they do disappear but what if they don’t, all because you didn’t know the person to begin with?

Marriage of Louis of France, Duke of Burgundy ...

I for one can’t understand why anyone would agree to an arranged marriage in the first place, YES, I know it’s the culture, it’s tradition, it’s this, it’s that and it doesn’t only happen here. Arranged marriages date right back to Louis XIV of France and Marie Theresa of Spain which was the 16th Century BUT…how can you put two people in a house and expect them to get along? What if they hate each other? What if they can’t stand to even hear the other one speak? Perhaps, that persons voice irritates the hell out of you, what then?

My advice to her was, he is your husband, you agreed to this. You aren’t a stupid person, you are intelligent, this is going to take time, ALOT of time. But what else could I say to her? You were stupid to ever do it in the first place?

We all have problems. We dwell on life too much. We question too much. We wish too much. We wonder too much. We aren’t grateful enough. So here’s what I have to say.

Be happy and grateful for what you have.

If you wait and wait and wait for; that perfect moment, that perfect guy, that perfect day, that perfect month-your life will be over.

Take each day as it comes.

Live life to the full.

Wake up with a smile on your face.

Just say el7umdela for what you have been given.

Afterall, no-one is perfect.